Bad Singapore Dads, Poor Kids

2 articles in The New Paper yesterday..

abt 2 Bad Singapore Dads, and their Poor Kids..

first dad..

was divorced from the wife several years back.. had several kids.. whom he doted on.. and he lost the custody battle.. so he's only allowed to meet his kids on Sundays, Chinese New Year and School Holidays..

so he made the efforts to meet his kids..

and one day.. after making arrangement 3 days before, he wanted to meet his kids.. and he waited from 11am till 6.15pm outside his ex-wife's house.. no one was at home..

so he got pissed.. and left.. and came back at wee hours in the morning, threw a beer bottle at the door..

he was charged for rash act and sentence to jail..

his ex-wife had taken Personal Protection Order against him coz of his habits.. it wasnt mentioned whether he was violent by nature or not..

Bad Singapore Dad?

or issit just a case of a Bad Ex-Husband?

he's a doting father.. and the kids had mentioned over the phone abt how much they missed him.. and he misses them, thatz why he ended up doing what he did..

so what the fuck does it have anything to do with being a Bad Singapore Dad?

ok.. maybe not all the facts were true.. maybe he did beat up his kids.. so why wasnt the facts published? considering the fact that they can put a label as Bad Singapore Dad (herewith, known as BSD), i'm sure they can publish the fact that he beat them up, if he really did..

if he didnt, and if he love his kids.. why was he categorised as a BSD? why not Bad Ex Husband Who Married A FuckedUp Woman Who Didnt Allow Him To Visit His Kids?

ok.. maybe he got his faults..

let's look at the second story..

Man married Woman.

Man and Woman get first kid.

Man wonder why kid doesnt look like him.

Man and woman got second kid.

14 yrz later, Man decided to have a DNA test, and the son was proven to be *NOT* his child..

Man becomes a Bad Singapore Dad for taking the test and finding out that boy is not his son, and therefore mentally distressing boy who wasnt his in the first place.

Woman was said to be lucky coz she finally managed to get her dark secret out and therefore good for her psychological state.

How good for her then.

Man shouldnt be a BSD. Man should have been labelled as ESS.

Extremely Stupid Sucker who had been paying for 14 yrz raising up some fella who came from the spermatozoa of another Man.

Woman is lucky to have been relieved from Dark Secret.

what the fuck?

even when itz a clearcut case of infidelity, the Man becomes the Bad Dad? when he's not even *the* DAD?

we men always get the blame for everything.. if itz from an ex-gf, fair enough..

but two stupid reporters?

what the hell?

do they know what they are talking about in the first place?

thatz why, itz a trend now, that MEN dont wanna get married. it only works for the women.

so, i'll donate my spermatozoa to the sperm bank.. so would a lot of other men. we dont need the stupid titles given by some dumbass reporters. get a baby if u wish to. dont count on me to be a sucker for you. so i dont need to be a Bad Singaporean Dad, and u dont need to be a Bad Adulterous Wife.. for whom, titles are not reserved.

so, i conclude that the article is FULL OF SHIT.

especially on the second story.. he is a victim of infidelity.. there were quotes from some child psychiatrists saying that BSD had raised the child for 14 years and to pull away is unfair for the child..

why not either the shrinks or the reporters adopt the child so they can acceed to his psychological needs? since they are as unrelated genetically to the boy as the BSD..

let THEM be the suckers.. 14 yrz for the poor Man is enough..

and what happened to the adulterous wife?

oh.. BSD decides to leave the wife.. so they are estranged now.. but its good for her psychologically so she dont need to live a lie anymore.. how sweet..

i think she should just go to hell..

and why am i so worked up abt some dysfunctional families? when i am not a father, not even married, not engaged, a bachelor, and on top of it all, unattached?

why is it a trend these days for men to be single?

coz we get the blame from everyone else.. why give urself unnecessary stress and responsibilities when u can avoid it and have a happier life?

it used to be normal for a man getting the blames and flames from his wife or girlfriend..

but now, itz the wife or girlfriend, her bestfriends, her irc friends, msn friends, friendsters and myspace friends, blogger friends, and 2 reporters from The New Paper.

actually.. 3 reporters.. 2 of them worked on the 2nd BSD.

ok.. whining stops here..

i'm on two weeks leave now, and therefore 2 weeks of babysitting my 2 yr old niece.. something that i had been looking forward to..

ok.. backtrackking to flight..

i arrived in Bombay on Friday night..

not really enough.. so me, my team girl Parul and a Leading Steward Ben decided to bring it back to the room for chit-chatting session.. till 6.30am..

woke up at 10.30am to go out shopping.. with my Chief Stewardess, Carolyn..

first stop, Irla Society Road again to head down to the shop that i went to, to get some Kurta for my mom.. but the shop was closed.. just managed to get one from a small shop along the street..



Irla Society Road..



the shop where I bought the Kurta..

ok.. sad-to-see sights again..



this woman was sitting in a pile of rubbish with a dog rummaging through.. i took this pic at the entrance to the Irla Society Road..



an old Tradesman.. i spent like 15 mins watching what he was doing.. he was carving grooves into this plate using a hammer and a chisel.. and the result looks like it came out of a machine..

as we couldnt get what we wanted here.. we headed down to a better place.. at Linking Road..

here.. the whole stretch of street is full of shops selling clothes and everything else.. and itz a good place to practice ur bargaining skills..

if the opening price is set at 500 Rupees... ask for 80 Rupees.. most probably u'll end up paying 100Rp..

$1 = 25 Rupees..

and i bought several blouse for my mom and shirts for my dad for 150 Rupees.. nice handmade shirts with sequin..

thatz like $6 a piece..

and earrings for my mom at 15Rp.. which is like 80 cents?

so i bought 17 pairs of it..



Linking Road..

the stretch of streets are full of illegal stalls.. and these ppl can disappear within seconds if there's any information abt authorities coming their way..



the shops disappeared within 10 seconds the most.. itz really fast, the way they pack up and left..



and more entertaining to see that they can come back within the same timespan when the authorities left.. these two pics are taken at the same place, less than 3 mins apart..

the Chief Stewardess that went shopping with me attracted a lot of attention.. she's 35, fair and tall.. and almost everywhere she went, u can see the ppl ogling..

a 21 yr old fella went to the extend of writing his name and number on the plastic bag that she was carrying..

and she's a former Miss Singapore/Universe runner up.. and she won the Miss Singapore/InterContinental.. so, no surprise anyway..

came back from Bombay the day before yesterday.. and spent the night sessioning with Hamdy and Yazid and Usman at Yishun Dam..

Hamdy just graduated to be a Corporal now.. so he had several days off before starting his Sergeant training..

spent the entire day yesterday sessioning with the band in Jurong.. and thru the day, even though Yazid and Fiza had to leave early, before the rest of the band arrived, we managed to get the whole band coming down for the session..

now, just need to make the sessions more regular now.. like how it was when the band started.. we managed to record 2 new songs onto my PC.. just need a lil bit further tunings to it.. one from Yazid and the other from Azil..

this is exactly what the band needed.. we had been complacent for a while now, and itz a good time to restart the band with loads of effort..

with a band, and a lifestyle like this, who needs a marriage anyway..